It's Okay To Be Away

Published on 9 June 2023 at 05:44

How can I effectively alleviate Separation Anxiety in a healthy manner?


Separation anxiety is a form of anxiety disorder that causes excessive worry about losing or being away from someone or something that one is emotionally connected to. My loved ones, family, friends, and even pets have all been the source of my anxiety in the past. While it is typical for infants and young children to experience separation anxiety as they learn how to build relationships and adapt to their surroundings, some people might continue to struggle with it into adulthood, which can adversely impact their day-to-day life. I have personally experienced this phenomenon, particularly when there is no set timeline for reuniting with loved ones after an extended separation. In some cases, my anxiety even led to panic attacks.


Separation anxiety can affect us as individuals in various ways.

Some common symptoms include:

- Distress before and during separation from the attachment figure
- Worry about losing or harming the attachment figure
- Worry about events that may lead to separation, such as accidents, illness, or death
- Reluctance to leave or be away from the attachment figure
- Fear of being alone or without the attachment figure
- Difficulty sleeping or having nightmares about separation
- Physical complaints, such as headaches, stomachaches, or nausea, when separated or anticipating separation


Separation anxiety can also affect our relationships with family and friends.

People may:

- Cling to or depend on the attachment figure excessively
- Avoid activities or situations that involve separation from the attachment figure
- Have difficulty making or maintaining friendships or romantic relationships
- Experience conflicts or resentment with the attachment figure or others who may perceive them as controlling or overprotective


Separation anxiety can be treated with various methods, depending on the severity and cause of the problem.

Some possible ways to alleviate this include:

- Seeking professional help from a mental health provider who can diagnose and treat separation anxiety disorder with psychotherapy, medication, or both
- Learning coping skills and relaxation techniques to manage anxiety and stress
- Challenging negative thoughts and beliefs that fuel separation anxiety
- Gradually exposing oneself to situations that involve separation from the attachment figure, starting with short and easy ones and progressing to longer and harder ones
- Seeking support from family, friends, or other trusted people who can provide emotional and practical assistance
- Engaging in hobbies, interests, or activities that bring joy and fulfillment
- Practicing self-care and maintaining a healthy lifestyle that includes regular exercise, adequate sleep, balanced nutrition, and avoiding substances that may worsen anxiety


Separation anxiety is a common and treatable condition that can affect anyone at any age. By understanding what it is, how it affects us, and how we can overcome it, we can improve our mental health and quality of life.

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